Turkey's caring 'Islamic' and 'democratic' face towards foreign English fathers!

Thanks to  David

An appalling and still on-going story about the caring face of modern Turkey.

A good friend of mine who is English and lives in Istanbul as I do, recently suffered the breakdown of a marriage after 17 months last year. Beforehand he was welcomed into the family as one of their own but “Do as say not as I do” rule applied later! He is still married to a Turkish woman who gave birth to his son last July 2006 who is both registered as a Turkish and British citizen. The woman's family (Islamic) were not that interested in their imminent grandchild until the day he was born where they systematically threatened, abused and withheld the child. The brother even opened up and brought open bank letters to the hospital on the day of the birth to give to his sister in front of her husband. The English husband had a polite word with him on their own only to be told "This is my sister’s letters and nothing to do with you." The husband replied “Who pays the bills- do you?" After more of this ignorant interference the rightly angry husband ejected him and his elderly mother followed suit.

Next day the English man's wife threatened to have him shot by her father (who returned from working and kept away from the hospital) and her primitive brother. The time her father came with some other relatives they all had a discussion about the appearance of the child and one relative said “You never know he might look like a Turk in a few months.” All in front of the English father who they know can speak a bit of Turkish. What ignorance! Later he ejected her brother after assuming repetitively the role of father in hospital to the new born child.

Both he and his racist mother repeatedly rang the house after the return of mother and child and father urging the new mother to leave and take the child. Indeed the mother kept appearing at the English man’s house and abusing him until she turn was told to get lost. This went on for months with the English man (a teacher) returning from work to find his wife out, coming home late with his son, inviting unknown guests to his house at weekends (her mother's middle aged friends who washed his son, gossiped openly about him and rudely took over the house). This suffocation also happened just after the couple were married too with constant flows of people dropping by! Unfortunately the Turkish wife of the English man chose her sides and loyalty.

The teacher in the end after many threats of violence from his unbalanced wife such as- “Dirty Christian, you were just a sperm cell”- and her screwy family (who he knew were racist due to the father's constant early criticising of Israel and Americans, Arabs and Pakistani (bad Muslims utterances), went to see her father to reason with, and pleaded that this stuff must stop as she needs to see a doctor- only to meet denial of truth syndrome by them. "Perhaps a week or so staying with you will benefit her" he offered saying "and repair our marriage." Her parents agreed after a fierce debate. The next day however a removal van came and the unbalanced Turkish woman in question with her lying father removed her belongings and took the English teacher's son promising this will be only for a few weeks. What rot!

Since then for many months she is still refusing access despite her and family's 'word of seeing the child anytime' to the father. The English teacher dropped by one night in desperation only to be violently abused verbally saying “This is turkey you have no rights the child is ours. You should never have married our daughter it is forbidden in Islam to marry a Christian. We aren’t obliged to stay in the house for you foreigners”. The woman even denied their husband giving his son present at Christmas time making excuses up "we have to go to the hospital." She did harass the father too for social security for months-abusive texts, phone calls- which he couldn't do as his work permit did not come through to allow it and blackened his name at the school he worked saying "this man won't pay for his son." The woman staff in question harangued the man for doing this disgrace to their sister Turk! The local police just said "See a lawyer."

Since then this English teacher found out that his wife was stealing from their own child’s bank account to pay medicine bills for her family, extravagant clothes for herself and birthday gifts for her friends. Plus the biggest shock finding out that her father was getting the rent of his wife’s house which he had been told along by his Turkish wife that with his money (life savings) would be sold to provide a nice future for them and their born son!

Over the Christmas period the man was served with papers banning him from taking out his son of the country for 18 years (legal!) divorce papers (demanding double the amount of his salary as a monthly maintenance (nafaka) for his wife and child which he replied to within 10 days as legally required via his own lawyer and which his wife's lawyer ignored the lawful reply for many weeks refusing to acknowledge even to this date. Finally he went to the woman Hakim (high ranking court official who legislates on child custody etc) who ruled that he can only see his own son and a British citizen the first Saturday of every month between 9.am and 4p.m for an hour or so if the mother agrees! The man's reluctant female lawyer said that the other lawyer got their first and objected to the English man’s weekly visitation request- hints later said by his modern Turkish friends relayed that money must have crossed palms. This is not unusual in a place like this as the whole system is very corrupt!- is appealing this unjust and undemocratic ruling and after the appeal result (not expected to change, despite the case’s facts being given!) will take it up with the British Embassy or the European Court of Rights, if needs be and shame this racist, religiously biased, core of people in Turkey who keep their own people down and say they are democratic. Even after agreeing to pay a reasonable amount of maintenance they still deny him and his child their rights which are so clearly stated out under the statutes of Ankara Law! Turkey- Europe no chance! If they treat Kurds as they say they do not politically, and foreigners who are guests and working law abidingly in the country like this, then what chance should Turkey have at all to enter Europe as a partner?

Shame on those Turks and their government who purport to be friends of all nations and lie and treat their own foreign guests like they have this English man. This culture has no chance of survival in Europe when family values are based on clouded Islamic principals which they distort for their own selfish and monetary ends and thrive on constant interfering into the rights of the individual! What hypocrites!